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Dear Leona

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Dear Leona,
My best friend and I have been good friends since elementary school, and lately we haven’t been getting along. We’ve been fighting over the smallest things and she won’t tell me why. I don’t want to fight with her, and it just feels like she’s always looking for a fight. On top of that, I’m dating someone that she apparently liked at one time, but she told me she got over him a year ago. Finally, she and I just can’t be around each other because we fight and it’s causing our other mutual friends to be put in the middle.
Why do you think she’s acting like this? And what should we do to fix it?
-Confused Friend, Anonymous

Dear Confused Friend,
Fighting with a friend is no fun at all, but remember that you need to try and keep the peace as much as possible. Maybe it’s jealousy over the fact that you’re dating someone she used to like, and she sees it as some sort of betrayal. Why not sit down with her and tell her that you are not there to fight and that you need to figure this all out. It’s best to try and keep your other friends out of the middle and from choosing sides because it will only cause more problems. Just the two of you sit down and ask her why she is upset with you. If she refuses to answer you, then just wait it out, but don’t fight with her so that you can resolve the problem after a while without so much anger between you. Hopefully she will tell you and you can both try and patch things up so that you can be the best of friends again. Good Luck.
-Leona

Dear Leona,
My life has been a mess lately and I’m not quite sure what to do about it. My best friends are all happy and excited because it is our last year, but I’m so loaded down with homework and never get to have any fun. I’m getting so stressed that I’m scared that I won’t enjoy my last year of high school. With all that going on, I also have to worry about helping out my friends with their problems.
Is there anything I can do to limit the stress I feel?
- Stressed Out Anonymous

Dear Stressed Out,
We all know that grade 12 is a scary year and is full of surprises and drama, but the trick is to make sure that you don’t let that drama affect your school work. Being a senior is supposed to be full of fun, but remember that along with that comes responsibilities that sometimes means not getting to go out with your friends. However, you should also realize that you sometimes need a small break from homework and you should go and do something fun for an hour or two so that your mind is clear when you go back to it. As for your friends, there will always be problems, but you can’t let that run your life or your last year will be so full of drama that you overlook the important things. Limiting your stress won’t be always be easy, but just focus on that last day of high school and try and get through it. Good Luck!
-Leona

Dear Leona,
Lately I’ve been having a few “boy problems.” I’ve been dating two separate guys, without them knowing of course, for about a month now. I’m not lonely right now but I know that I will be when I don’t CONSTANTLY have two guys on the go. Should I break up with one of the guys, or keep dating both? Please help me. Thanks so much!
- Distressed Anonymous.


Dear Distressed,
I think that you should sit down with both of the boys, individually, and talk to them. Get a grasp on which one makes you the happiest and then focus on that boy. Once all of your focus is directed to him, your relationship should grow, and hopefully force your feelings of insecurity and loneliness, to disappear.
You should never have to feel as though you constantly need two boys in order to feel complete. Once you find the right guy, he should make up for these lonely and insecure feelings.
You should definitely not play these boys at once though. You’re better than that! Good luck!
-Leona xo


Dear Leona,
My boyfriend and I have been talking about moving out together into an apartment when I graduate from high school. I love the idea and he did too at the beginning when we first brought it up. Now he is re-thinking the whole thing because he thinks that we would fight a lot if we lived together. I reassured him that we wouldn’t because I would not stress about who he was around or where he was, since I would know for sure that he would be coming home to me at night whenever we weren’t somewhere together. He is still iffy on the idea of him and me in an apartment alone, with rent and everything else that goes into living on your own. I think that he is afraid that I wouldn’t hold up my end of the deal, like paying half of the bills, which I would. How do I make him believe that I will be true to what I told him and have him more on the yes note of moving out?
- Anxiously Waiting

Dear Anxiously Waiting,
You should bring up the matter of moving out to him sometime when he is not busy and tell him that this is a great way to extend your relationship. That this is a step forward and you want to try it, and if he doesn’t like how it is going by the first few months or weeks of living there that you will try your best to fix whatever it is not working for him, or you two can just move back into your own homes. Make sure you make it clear to him that you really believe that it will work out and that you wouldn’t fight because of the reasons that you have just told me. I think that if you two are committed to each other and are faithful and true then this will definitely work out.
- Sincerely Leona xo

Dear Leona,
For the past couple of months, my boyfriend and I haven’t been spending as much time together as we normally do. He works all the time and says that he has to stay there later than usual. I’m really getting worried; I feel like he is trying to avoid me. We share an apartment but he is never there when I go to sleep and he leaves early in the morning to go to “work”. It makes me really question our relationship and makes me worry that he may be interested in someone else and going behind my back to see her. What should I do?
- Lonely Girl

Dear Lonely Girl,
You should definitely have a talk with him. Make him listen and set a date to talk, one that fits both of your schedules. Ask him what has been going on lately and why he is never around; tell him to tell you the truth and nothing else. Make sure you are stern and serious about the situation. Tell him exactly how you feel, that you have been feeling very alone the past couple of months and that you need to see more of him and feel like he is as committed to you as you are to him to make this relationship last. Do not stress over the fact that he hasn’t been around much. He may be having problems of his own that he may feel uncomfortable or shy telling you about; ask him to open up to you as much as he can. Good luck!
- Sincerely Leona xo






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